Tuesday, April 10, 2012

My Working-Mom Morning Routine

Let's just say, it sucks. Gone are the days of rising out of bed and turning on the lights and your favorite funny radio show while you shower, primp, and select clothing for the day.


Now my alarm goes off at 6:00am and I really need to set it earlier but I just can't bare to do so. Getting up earlier then 6:00 am should be illegal. This morning I literally whimpered, "Noooo!" when I heard that annoyingly familiar beep, beep, beep. Of course I hit the snooze button because I'm weak and lame like that. I know my husband hates it but it's truly an uncontrollable response. I stumble out of bed in the dark so as not to wake him even more or wake the boys who faithfully rise like roosters. I make it to the bathroom and shower (a miracle in itself) and realize I didn't set my clothes out the night before. This is something I hate to do. I prefer to be fashionably spontaneous, another trait that my hubs can't stand. So as quiet as I try to be while I take 3 or 4 trips in and out of the bathroom and into my closet and back again, I'm startled when I see a pair of little eyes spying on me. It was Muffin. So if he is awake his brother isn't far behind. Before I'm even fully clothed both boys, now 5 & 7 are up and ready to play. I try to persuade them to lay quietly in one of their rooms but I can hear them laughing all the way down the hallway. I know Hubs couldn't possibly be sleeping but he pretends, wishful thinking I suppose.

Then I head downstairs for a travel cup of coffee and go but they need my help to get their favorite morning appetizer, yogurt and cheerios, of course. I quickly get what they need and fulfill all their requests but I want to be there to take care of them but I have to rush out. I leave the house feeling like a bad mom and generally unorganized and slovenly to be quite honest.
I wonder what I should wear tomorrow...

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Monday, April 9, 2012

Mom Stigma

Do you have friends or co-workers that don't have children?  Either by choice or circumstance, it really doesn't matter.  Crap, I have family members that don't have kids and get the general same feeling from them.

It's hard to be a working mom.  It's hard to be a working mom with a commute that is over an hour, each way.  It's hard being a working mom that has a job requiring some weekend work in the months of April, May, an June.  It's hard being a mom who is now worried she will miss almost every soccer game the boys have this season (their first playing soccer, ever).

On Friday I left work a couple of hours early.  It was super slow as the majority of schools were on Spring Break and I work in sales for a school photography company.  As I was leaving a co-worker and friend made the comment, "I wish I had kids so I could leave early."  I responded that not everyone that has been leaving early has kids.  Having kids myself wasn't even the reason I was leaving early.  I was leaving early because it was Good Friday and I had almost nothing to do.

But still, it got me thinking.  It made me feel bad and reminded me about the constant dance I do as a working mom to please my family and my work.  I work because I have to so don't think that I just have this idea that I need a career to be important and all that...I work to help put food on the table and pay our mortgage.  That's it.  We have Saturday work coming up.  This is a huge source of stress for me as I think I will miss many of the boys soccer games and there isn't much I can do about it.  I don't think I should get  special consideration because I'm a mom but at the same time if you don't have a child depending on you to be somewhere to show your support then maybe it's not as vital that you work or not work on a Saturday.  Yes, if we work on a Saturday we can take a day off during the week but that doesn't do any good for the boys as they are in school and I might as well be at work anyway.

Don't look down on people that have chosen to be a parent.  You may think they are getting off easier than you but you would be wrong.  We spend all out time pleasing you and our kids and families while putting ourselves constantly last.

I'm not complaining.   I wouldn't want it any other way but it is a tough road and often feels like you can't please anyone.

Wednesday, April 4, 2012

Muffin's 1st Soccer Practice

Monday was Muffin's 1st practice ever and he rocked it!  Hubs and I had a blast watching this kid cruise around the field strutting his stuff.  He was totally excited about wearing his new uniform including the little strap for his glasses (that makes his ears stick out, lol)!
Posing for the camera, a rare event!

High 5 the coach.

Making new friends.

Leader of the pack!
We can't wait until next Monday to do it all over again:)  He has never smiled so much!