I consider myself to me a somewhat relaxed mom, not too strict, allowing my boys to test the boundaries. However, if bad behavior creeps in over what I would consider to be normal boyish mischievousness, then heads will roll.
As we were waiting in line there was another mother with her equally young perhaps 3 year old daughter behind us in line. The little blond girl said sweetly to her mom, "Can I have a treat?"
OK, yes, we have all heard this before from our kids. Yes, it can be annoying. Yes, they ask for things all the time...I'm aware. Granted I had just seen them for the first time and have no idea what kind of adventured sprung up on their shopping trip...However...
This mom reacted so nastily. Her voice was so harsh as she said, "The cup IS your treat and I'm going to put it back!" You can imagine the rest...little girl would step away (only like 3 feet) and get reprimanded again with the loss of her little princess cup. It wasn't what the mom said, it was how she said it. She was angry and she was taking it out on her daughter.
Muffin and I paid and rolled out into the parking lot. He asked for one of the juice boxes we had just purchased and because this angry woman had affected me...I smiled and reached for a juice box because he asked so nicely. As I was getting ready to back out of the spot I saw that mother again looking as angry as ever. Her little daughter trailing behind her with this sad face. I saw this mother pick her up and plop her daughter into the carseat. She was being too rough I thought as she pulled on the straps and buckles of the carseat. She was raising her voice and pointing her finger right in her daughters face and the little girl was crying.
I froze. I froze because I'm pretty sure this exact scene has played out in my own life on another day on another shopping trip. Watching this scene play out hit me like a truck. I will NEVER lose my temper like that again with my boys no matter what they do. I will try so hard not to let my own personal frustrations or stresses effect my job as a mom. I don't ever want to be that mom...
Being a mom is hard work. I don't ever want my boys to be treated like that little girl was, not even by me. I want my children to trust me. I want them to always feel safe and protected by me. We are our children's whole world while they are young. They look to us for whats right and wrong. Never forget that. Respect your kids, they deserve it.