Wednesday, March 3, 2010

I want a GIRL!


I just hit my mid 30's. I have 2 amazing and crazy and loving and wild little boys. They are just over two years apart. It was tough when the 2nd came, since my first wasn't talking yet. Often we felt out little newborn Muffin was in danger for his life if we left Puck alone in a room with him, so we didn't!

I have this nagging feeling that I'm not "done" yet. I'm somewhat ashamed to admit that I really want a girl. Of course I would love a another boy just as fiercely. I just love the idea of being a mom to a girl. I want to be able to bestow my "knowledge" and experience of being a woman to my daughter.

Hubs and I go back and forth on the 3rd baby issue. He wants one when don't and I want one when he feels like, never. So it goes....

...but last night while cleaning the kitchen up he says, "You really want another? I'll give you 2 shots." (Meaning 2 non-planned non-protected "events") Hmmm, well that's progress I'd say.

A 3rd baby would change everything. I would have to stop working but it would allow me to fully concentrate on my business. The boys might have to bunk-up but they would probably love that.

I've given away almost all my baby stuff except the crib, a Medela, and a crap load of little boy clothes....

Well, who knows if it will even happen but I'm glad he may be opening to the idea of it. At least I don't HAVE to say, "Yes, we are done." There is a tiny spark of hope.

16 comments:

For the Love of Naps - Sarah said...

I could have written this exact post! ...well except for your husband offering you two chances. I read this post to my husband and he chuckled. I don't think I am done either - two wonderful boys - but I want to go through it one more time...not for the girl - just for one more! And I hear if you have any feeling that you want another you should go for it...Our boys would have to bunk together too. And life would be on hold longer -as I would have to stay at home longer...ugh....I loved this post - knowing there is someone going through the same thing with their husband!

Angie said...

I also love my two litle boys and would almost die for a little baby girl... but I am not as brave as you! I think we would totally get another boy (my hubs is one of 8 kids and only has 1 sister...) We are done. I am happy with my little men and know I don't have the energy and stamina for another baby!

Good luck though! I will send whatever pinkness in me to you!

clairity said...

There's nothing like a girls' day out and I thoroughly enjoy that with my 2 daughters (teens now). You should definitely go for it ;)

Michelle Leigh said...

Having 2 girls is sooooo wonderful. I feel incredibly blessed that I get to experience them, and my son. They are all so different. Just know, life gets exponentially harder with a third. It's not a bad thing, it's just harder. More kids demanding more things all at the same time! It's an adventure, that's for sure. But, I knew I wasn't done at 2 and Bennett came as a wonderful OOOOOPS when Bianca was 6 months old. If you don't think you are done, then you aren't, simple as that! Good luck with the 2 "events"!

Jessica said...

I feel you....after 3 girls I am ready for a boy. My hubby wants to wait atleast another year before trying. :(

Chrystal said...

Wooo hoo! Good luck. We go back and forth on #2 since hubby is turning the big 4-0 this year. I am 27 so who knows. Maybe one day.

Danielle said...

Whoa,,,,n I'm not sure if you already know here,, but my other bloggy friend posted on this too this morning!
http://leighvslaundry.blogspot.com/2010/03/may-i-sit-on-your-couch-and-have-quick.html

Crazed Mama said...

I had a girl after 2 boys and she is fun and the clothes and bows are too much! But....I was so happy to just have a healthy child and BTW girls are sassy! My boy's are super cuddlers and my girl has her own agenda

Daisygirl said...

2 shots!!! haha! That is hilarious and such a guy thing to say!

I always knew I wanted 3 kids but one day I kinda joked about wanting another and my hubs just about died right on the spot! ~Jen~

Tezzie said...

I was sure that Munchkin was going to be a boy...and I was thrilled, since my firstborn is such a sweetie, and to have another 'just like him' would've been great!

But, Munchkin wanted to show her strong will and 'quite contrary-ness' by being a girl...and she hasn't stopped since! Of course, I love her to pieces, and wouldn't trade her for anything...but I never imagined that having a girl could be so frustrating!

Boy is a cuddle monster, sweet and easy to read...Munchkin is a stubborn terror who'll only do things if she thinks it's her own idea.

Just saying. Girls aren't always sweet and pink and "sugar and spice" and "everything nice"... ;D

Danifred said...

Ohhhh, so exciting! Maybe we'll be pregnant together! Two wishes come true :)

Messy Mommy said...

How exciting! Better get to it. ;)

Stepping On Cheerios said...

Be careful what you wish for, right?

Juno Mom said...

Go for it!!!! I, too, have that nagging feeling of not being done but I am the ONLY ONE that has it. Period.

Yeah exciting!!!

Lindsay said...

Aww, I love this post. And laughed when I read -

I'll give you 2 shots." (Meaning 2 non-planned non-protected "events")

Sounds like something my husband would say. I think it would be great for you because you want it and it would also give you the opportunity to stop working and focus on what you really want to do.

Keep us posted! We could throw you a 'Blog Baby Shower"! Even though I am not sure how that would work. But I would figure it out : )!

Fishsticks and Fireflies said...

I had the same feeling of not being 'done' after Maren was born, and am so glad that we decided to go for another child - I don't think you will ever regret having a 3rd child as much as you may regret NOT having a 3rd child. Good luck!