Monday, January 11, 2010
Everyone knows that words can hurt. It can be the tone of the words, the volume, the words themselves, the emotion behind them, the timing of such words given a particular situation, maybe even who uses the words. What's worse, for me than harsh words, is the lack of words.
There is more than one person in my life that has simply chosen silence...no words. No words to me equals no feelings, no remorse, no concern for those they have shut out. To not speak means to not care..at least that's all I can afford to believe, otherwise wouldn't they have something to say to me? Silence doesn't offer either side a chance to apologize for past wrongs or misunderstandings, silence is lonely, silence is cold, and silence in cruel.
Why do people choose silence? Is it always their intent to hurt or is it that they themselves are hurting? I can only initiate communication from my end for so long. It's exhausting and draining and every time my efforts go ignored I just end up feeling more hurt. When do you know it's o.k. to give up, when do you know you've said all you can say? When do you move on?